Congrats!
My husband started seeing things before I did... Why? He read, he studied, and he told me things.
Once I got a hold of an old book, "The Finished Mystery" and read page 230 (They started explaining what the meaning of Rev 14:20, using the Hoboken Tunnel, measuring distances between buildings, and coming up with the craziest reasonings.. boiling down to numerology.. change numbers to make them work... especially with this 'overlapping generations." The books says:
The mileage from the Scranton to Hoboken Terminal is shown in time tables as 143.8 and this is the mileage charged to passengers, but in 1911, at an expense of $12,000,000 the Lackawanna Railroad completed it’s famous cut-off, saving 11 miles of the distance. From the day the cut-off was completed, the trainmen have been allowed 11 miles less than the time table shows, or a net distance of ….. 132.8 (I cried when I saw the similarities of how the WT just changes things when necessary)
Maybe have the book in your hand, say Hmmm? what are they saying? let her explain... ask, "Why did they take 11 miles out when they changed the Railway?"I think asking questions, and reallllllly letting her answer is the best.
But don't do it toooo much, sometimes I was driven crazy when the same things were repeated over and over. Personally, I w/have liked the direct approach, and when we eventually went thru the 2011 WT's about 607 together, collecting info, discovering reality, it was a team effort.
College?can you get her to take classes, take her mind in different directions? Vacations where you miss some meetings? Enjoy some real life? Take her away from the "full time" association? Start going to 'country line dancing', or the gymor biking/ rafting, karaoke? Some kind of hobbytogether?
How about asking her to work part timeto help out? Maybe you could point out many older ones don't have retirement, and they should have planned... or maybe they don't have Social Security because they didn't work? Point out that "maybe the light will get brighter," and the two of you may be in others situations if the end is "in the future" by a hundred years...
Have her start reading books with you... "Reading Lolita in Iran" is an interesting book, as it is from the viewpoint of a woman who grew up in a 'free Iran,' returned, and found it taken over by religious zealots that did not allow free thinking... It could be a story about JWs... But, since it is from a different viewpoint (a teacher in Iran) lessons may be learned easier (it's not against JWs)... "Lipstic Jihad" is another one... also about Iran.. but it helps you learn that things aren't always what they seem at face value... good lessons to be learned.
Science fictionhas always allowed people to 'have their comments' about things when there is social pressure... Can you get her to watch "The Matrix"? Blue pill/ red pill.... Then you can ask questions, "what would you do? would you rather not know?"
If she is smart, and you show her love, and patience, there is a better chance you can make it. All of my family is out, I am so thankful, but it took some time, cracks in the dam, and eventually, it broke. And yes, you are young, be glad you still have a chance to plan for a future.
Wishing you well, cha ching
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